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Thursday, February 7, 2013

How to Make Wild Passionate Love to Your Man

Welcome to BRB, everyone! February, the month of love has begun. Do you have anything special planned? I don't what I'm going to do yet. What do you do for a man that has everything? Yeah, I don't know either. LOL Maybe my guest today could give us all a few pointers. I've known Jacqueline George since RLJ, and not only is she a good friend, she's an extremely talented lady who loves real romance, and I'm talking the hot and steamy kind. Jacqueline will be posting with me once a month! So, let's get the introduction started, Jacqueline. What genre do your currently write? And, is there a genre you'd like to write, but haven't tried yet?

I write what I fancy, partly because I am self-indulgent but mostly because I am not good at forcing myself into a genre that I would not read for fun. So horror is out, along with excessive weeping. I don’t like to be scared to death, or to read something so sad that it needs an accompanying box of tissues.
What else do I leave? Modern vampires, for a start. I’m sorry, I just cannot empathise with creepy heroes in white-face make-up. And as for the women (girls) who are attracted to the life-style...
Still that leaves me with all the good stuff, adventure, sexy romance, historical, classic fantasy, travel. If you look at my book list, they are all there, and I enjoy writing and reading them.
Do you think an author's sex or sexual orientation should dictate what genre they write?
When you put pen to paper, you can be who you like, and you can travel wherever and whenever you choose. That is the great romance of writing a book, and compensates for the hard, lonely hours a novel demands.
Why should an author be restricted by their gender? Well, one very good reason for limiting your flight of fancy is that you may not understand what you are talking about. If I pick up a book that does not ring true, I don’t bother reading on. If a female romance writer chooses to write about gay relationships and sex, she had better be very careful to get under the skin of her characters or she will drive gay readers nuts. [Thinking about that, if she does write a genuinely gay book with real male thoughts on sex and relationships, she may drive her romantic female readers nuts...]
What has been the single most successful marketing tool you've used to date?
I have tried traditional publishing, with agents and friendly old editors inviting me to city lunches, and stumbled at the first hurdle. The old bastards don’t even send me proper rejection letters. Now I understand that I lack the basic requirements for that sort of literature i.e. a doting uncle with a publishing company.
Fortunately, ebooks have rescued me and I have a range of books out and selling. I have done this through a couple of American publishers and they have not been great successes. And the kind publishers take a massive share of the loot for doing next to nothing.
Now I am part of a cooperative project Yellow Silk Dreams that sells books from a small group of authors non-exclusively. By which I mean, if you join, your books will be distributed for free, other members will help with reviews, tweets etc., and you get 100% of the revenue (less the cut that Amazon, B & N, etc take). And you can still sell your book wherever else you want - it is still completely YOUR book. This approach is growing successfully, and I find I don’t need a proper publisher.
What are you currently reading?
Right now - Don Quixote by Graham Green. There is a thoughtful book, and I love the gentle humour.
How do you measure success?
Sales. The only real measure of success is people parting with a little money for the privilege of reading something I have written. Yes, I know selling is a fickle business, and The Da Vinci Code sold a zillion copies and had a film made, but that sort of success is manufactured. It is out of my control and does not rely on the quality of the writing. Take the Spice Girls as an example (am I dating myself?). A talented and attractive bunch, but their success was manufactured by the publicity and marketing industry. I am not playing in that league, so measure my success by how many real people lay out the cost of a mug of coffee on one of my books.
Just for fun–
What is your favourite drink?
Don’t have one. There are so many wonderful wines, beers, schnapps etc out there, it would be impossible to choose. I do have young coconuts trees in my garden just coming into fruit. The juice from an immature coconut is delightful, and you can add a little black rum, or lime juice, or both for variety.
Are you a cat or dog person?
Both, but we have cats because they can manage alone when we are out. Our neighbours drop by to feed them, and we can be away for several days without them noticing.
Love or lust?
What sort of a question is that? Go to the bottom of the class immediately! Haven’t you learnt by now that, in a sexual relationship, both are vital?
If you could spend the day with any famous author, who would it be? And, why?
Shakespeare, of course, but if we set aside the historical giants, I would love a chat with J.R.R. Tolkien. It would be nice to know if he thinks (as I do) that his books have been butchered by Hollywood. Perhaps I’ll stick with J.K.Rowling. She is a woman I admire, and sounds like a lot of fun.
If you could indulge free of any consequences, what would be your ultimate sexual fantasy?
The ultimate fantasy would be the freedom to indulge in anything but, as I think about the question, I find it hard to imagine having fun without my lover along to hold my hand and join in the fun. Am I boring?
How to make Wild, Passionate Love to your Man
Every woman makes love to her man with her heart, but just where do you learn how to do it with your mind and body too?  Here is a chance to peep into the sexy world between your man's ears, and lots of practical advice on what to do to drive him wild.
Now you can be the most skillful lover he has ever experienced...
What do men think looks sexy? 

People as different as men and women are bound to have different ideas about what looks sexy. Men are believed to take in a whole-body image of a woman when they first see her. If she is interesting, they register an image of her sexual features – legs, butt, breasts – and then add hair and face. Interestingly, men find it difficult to recall details of what she was wearing or the color of her eyes. They retain a strong opinion of her attractiveness but often cannot tell you much beyond whether she was wearing a skirt or pants. It is as if they are more interested in the effect of her presentation than the details of the presentation itself. A woman seeing the same person is much more likely to be able to recall what she was wearing, perhaps because her mind is unclouded by the question of sexual attractiveness.

It follows that subtlety is probably wasted on men; it will be only the obvious that stays in their minds. There is not much point worrying about the color balance of the chiffon scarf you have wound about your neck to highlight your new blouse. He might remember that you had something around your neck but he will certainly recall that the cold had made your nipples stick out like thumbs.

Women look in acid scorn at the girl at the party who has the men hanging around her like dogs at a barbecue. She is dressed just like a slut, her skirt is too short, her breasts are halfway out of her blouse, and those heels are ridiculous. But hey, she is not sitting at home on Saturday night waiting for the phone to ring. She must be doing something right.

Men in bed dream about sex. Their minds are filled not with pictures of fashion statements but erotic images of women. Of succulent thighs, rounded hips, soft and swinging breasts, heavy feminine bottoms. And that is what they find sexy when they are awake as well.

 Don’t Men care about Personality? 

Nope. Not at first sight. An empty-headed bimbo will get as much attention as you do. Or probably more, because she survives by getting men to take care of her and she has had a lifetime of practice. But don’t be depressed; it doesn’t take much of a personality to catch a man but you will need one to keep him.

In the meantime, you must concentrate on understanding what men find sexy, so watch the bimbos and learn. It should not be too difficult. After all, you are smarter than they are, aren’t you?

 Men are so Childish!

 Well, yes, I can see why you might say that, but you would be wrong. Let me give you two reasons. Firstly, heterosexual men make up nearly half of the population. If they all have similar reactions to women (and they do, believe me) then you cannot call the reactions childish. They are part of the fundamental male spirit.

The second reason is that some of the very same men have painted masterpieces, created sublime music, ruled empires and written literature that endures for centuries. Nearer to home you have devoted fathers, solid carers and servers of the community, and quiet gardeners. Inside all of them, sometimes open for view and sometimes discretely hidden, is the same old Adam who would just love to reach out and caress the waitress’s bottom. It is simply the nature of the beast. You do not have to like the situation, just understand how it works.
Jacqueline lives in Far North Queensland, on the shore of the Coral Sea. She keeps herself busy with her cats and garden, and by writing books - some of which are far too naughty for her own good. You can find out more about Jacqueline and her books at www.jacquelinegeorgewriter.com
Thanks so much for stopping by, Jacqueline! Great to have you here! ~ Blak Rayne


  1. What an excellent interview with a fascinating lady. I'm aware of Yellow Silk books but must make sure I get to read a lot more of them.

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Diane! Jacqueline is an interesting lady.

  2. Another great interview with some fascinating questions Blak. I enjoyed this insight into one of my favourite writers, who would have thought she hated vampires as much as me? As a fellow Yellow Silk author l can only echo their success in providing authors fair pay for a job well done.

    1. Thank you, Gemma, and thank you for stopping by. She is a talented lady! :)

  3. Thanks, guys. I really think this co-operative marketing idea is one that will grow. If readers know they can count on a group to provide good quality stories of similar length, cost and genre, then that group will thrive and prosper. Good for both readers and writers.