Tantra - The Mystical Art of Sex
Sex isn’t anything new. Sex has been around
since the birth of mankind. But what makes it fascinating is the cultural
diversity behind it. Every race has a different set of rules, myths, and a
philosophy indicative of their culture, which can and usually does have close
ties to a religious belief. One of the oldest examples of spirituality meeting
with sexuality is that of an Eastern teaching, called the Tantra, whose origins
date back to four thousand years ago in India.
I read webpage after webpage until my eyes
were burning and, I confess, there is so much to learn. Tantra is a total
surrender of mind, body and soul, to create and cultivate sexual freedom that
liberates and expands our consciousness. Say that three times fast! Basically,
in layman’s terms, the idea is to produce a more enriched sexual experience for
both parties through various techniques of stimulation, for example, breathing and
massage. Another important aspect of Tantra sex is the chakras, which are energy
centers in the body between the pelvis and the top of the head. Tantric (sacred
sexuality) is to experience the merging of two beings via their sexual energy.
Everything
in nature is viewed as energy (chakra) – energy that moves at a different rate,
making itself visible through space, time and so on. And these energies, if existing in balance, will produce a
harmonious peace. When these energies become unbalanced we may find ourselves
with poor health and even lack when it comes to sexual performance. Before any
sexual activity, it is important to bring your energy centers (chakras) into
balance. There are seven primary chakras in the body, each with a specific
function. The three above the Heart Chakra pertain to intelligence and
spirituality, and the three below pertain to physical and emotional needs. The
spirit must function in harmony with the flesh and the Heart Chakra is the
balance between.
Tantra doesn’t discriminate. It’s a sexual
practice that can be enjoyed by anyone – heterosexual or GBLTQ. All you
need is trust and a willingness to experiment. Keep an open mind, relax, and I
promise, from what I’ve read, you will orgasm to your heart’s content. There
are two sides to Tantra sex, one male and one female, and it’s the male side I’ve
found to be the most fascinating. There are certain ritualistic steps leading
up to an evening of Tantra that help to prepare the body, mind, and soul.
Step One: Preparation
There
is a long list of ways to prepare for an evening of Tantra sex and it’s
something that you’d definitely have to research thoroughly before attempting.
I can’t possibly explain and neither do I want to, as I’m not an expert. But to
give a basic outline your chakras must be in balance, which also includes your
physical and mental preparation. It is advised that the necessary exercises be
preformed in the nude for five to ten minutes every day; breathing, relaxation,
stretching and controlled masturbation are part of the process. Once you’ve
achieved a heightened sense of awareness, your mind, body and soul is open then
you are ready for the next step.
Step Two: The Bathing Ceremony
Cleanliness is next to
Godliness, and it is also a part of sex that does matter and aid in making the
experience that much more pleasurable. Fill the tub part way with warm water
(not too hot) but at a temperature you find the most relaxing. It is
recommended that you use a variety of scented oils and soaps to induce a sense
of calm, those that you find to be the most appealing. The giver can then use
these soaps and oils to massage your body and to cleanse, starting at the
temples and working his/her way down to your toes. The warmth, massage and
scents will relieve all your stress and any anxiety. The giver is encouraged to
use perhaps a soft sponge and candlelight is always a welcome addition to the
ambience. You will know when you’re fully relaxed and can progress.
Step Three: Tantra Lingam (Penis-Wand of
Light) Massage
The whole purpose of Tantra/Tantric massage
is to induce a trance like state – not orgasm, where there are no more
emotional, mental or physical barriers, and whatever problems you may have been
fretting over are gone. If mastered, in time, you will become fully receptive
to the giver and you’ll enjoy prolonged and multiple orgasms during actual
intercourse. Lingam massage is essential to reaching a spiritual and physical
ecstasy.
It is advised that the receiver lay on his
back with his head, neck and upper torso supported by lots of pillows –
whatever he finds most comfortable. Then the giver should also place more
pillows behind the knees and under the legs so they are spread apart with the
knees slightly bent, which provides unobstructed access to the genitals but
still be resting at a comfortable angle. Once your partner is ready, he should
do some deep breathing and then the massaging
can commence. It is suggested that you massage chest, nipple area, abdomen,
thighs and legs first, while reminding the receiver to continue with the deep
breathing. Begin by pouring a small amount of oil on the shaft and testicles
then gently massage the testicles. Then massage the scrotum, the pubic bone and
the perineum. Of course don’t forget to massage the shaft. Varying the pressure
and speed can be quite enjoyable. It is advised to gently squeeze the base of
the shaft with your right hand and pull up, making sure to slide off. You
should alternate between both hands and then change direction by squeezing at
the head. This is to be repeated over and over then the massaging can move up
to the head. Cup the head and move in a circular motion. If the receiver is
going to ejaculate the giver must stop and allow time for the shaft to soften.
Another part of the Lingam massage is the
sacred spot. This spot is a small indentation approximately halfway between the
testicles and anus. When you locate the sacred spot you must be gentle and push
inward. The receiver will feel pressure deep inside and for some it may be
uncomfortable. But by way of repetition, the more this area is massaged and
softened; the receiver will eventually be able to take pleasure in longer
orgasms and controlled ejaculation. When the receiver is close to ejaculate you
can press into the sacred spot. At this point he may experience some
overwhelming emotions; this is a normal reaction and the giver must be
reassuring. After the massage is finished it’s important to allow the receiver
time to rest. And don't forget you can swap with your partner and instead of
playing the giver you become the receiver–wouldn't that be awesome!
Wow it’s getting a little hot in here. If I
wore glasses they’d be steamed! LOL I think it’s time to call it quits for
today! I hope you enjoyed the article, as much as I enjoyed researching and
writing about it! Thanks for reading!
Happy Yaoi Hunting!
Blak Rayne
Very informative!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Jean, and thanks for stopping by!
DeleteThanks a lot for sharing this helpful information!
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