What is with the sudden craze of Alpha
Males and BDSM?
Not really preferring to consider myself
one of those who jump on the first bandwagon that rolls by, I tend to be late
coming onto the scenes of new fads. But after a while, curiosity always seems to get the better of me and I
will do a little investigating as to just what makes a particular fad so
compelling. Maybe it’s the psych
major in me taking over.
This is what happened to me with the latest
BDSM erotica craze. As usual, years
late in coming to the game, I have finally become curious as to why it is so
popular. As I have now ventured into
writing a few BDSM stories of my own, I feel it is important to understand
these things.
My first thought was, ‘what about all these
strong women who had fought for so long for equal rights, as well as to be seen
as equals in the workplace and society as a whole’?
Well, after pondering it, I realised that
was exactly why this craze has become so appealing. After having a few decades to settle into their newly earned
roles, and men in turn adjusting the way they treat women according to these politically
correct conventions, I believe women may actually be missing some elements the
traditional roles offered them.
That, of course, is not to say that they
wish to give up their right to work and to be treated fairly. However, I think all the side effects
which accompanied those major accomplishments, such as more assertiveness in
the bedroom and in relationships, while at first prized, have now begun to grow
old. The novelty has started to
wear off.
The sexual revolution of the 1960’s &
70’s for the first time in history enabled women to enjoy not only holding
their own in the bedroom, but even exerting their power over men and for men to
in turn reap the novel enjoyment of this role reversal which led to the
popularity of the Dominatrix fad in the 1980’s & 90’s.
Women now have more power and secretly
yearn for that confident dominance of a man again, for someone to take
charge. And due to the loss of
chivalry which seemed to be consequential to these other changes, a sad
majority of men no longer know how to treat a woman like a lady, or don’t
realise they actually might still desire such treatment. Despite their outward protests, I
believe most women still have an innate desire to be treated as though they are
treasured, doted upon, and pleasured.
In addition to this, as a result of
adjusting to the power of women, men have taken a step back in their sexual
roles. With many intimidated by
strong, successful women in the workplace, the pressure to treat them as equals,
along with the overzealous concern about sexual harassment issues have
essentially caused many men to revert back to frightened adolescents when it
comes to sex. They are essentially
afraid to use their masculine assertiveness, afraid of offending, afraid of
rejection, and afraid of being sued, for that matter.
So, as with everything else, women today
want it all. While they appreciate
the equal treatment and modern rights and freedoms today’s women have, they
also find themselves desiring to, at times, again be that submissive woman who
is deliciously dominated by a strong, sexually assertive male who takes care of
all of her needs, sexual and otherwise.
I have no idea how it is for those truly
engaging in the submissive lifestyle role, but I think that for women merely
enjoying reading the fantasy of such a lifestyle, it is for them a beautiful
escape, more than even the general reading of a story provides, for if she
really is able to put herself in the character’s place, she rids herself of the
stress and pressures of responsibilities which most women in today’s world find
themselves burdened with. To
imagine being a woman whose sole responsibility is to please a beautiful man who in turn treasures her
and takes care of needs she didn’t realise she even had surely is an appealing
prospect! It’s like taking the
former glory of the Harlequin romance novel days and modernizing it to address
the more varied and oft neglected needs of today’s women.
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I too have wondered about this. Nice article. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThanks Morgan! I'm glad you enjoyed it!
DeleteWell, yes, I can see what you are saying but... It's just that I can't see it in myself. Role playing in bed - possibly. Day to day 'alpha male' behaviour - forget it. And I don't have the urge to read about it either, not unless the author is really, really good.
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