Okay, let’s get started. Forget I’m a woman and instead think of me as your Wild Wednesday sex therapist! lol Everything I have and will ever post is researched to the best of my abilities and, on occasion, that will include talking with real people to ask for advice or their insight. Once in awhile I'll add my personal experience, but the odds of me confessing are zilch. lol
As with any activity, and this includes sex, most of us do require practice. No one is born with an instruction manual. Though the human anatomy is the same for everyone, and basic bodily functions are similar, doesn’t infer that what you find sexually enjoyable your partner automatically will. Sex is the one thing that separates us from the animals. Not only can we have sex for self-gratification, but also to share an emotional bond–express how we feel.
It will take time, patience, and experimentation to figure out which positions suit you the best. But according to the experts once you do overcome your fears and inhibitions you should discover that anal intercourse can be a source of immense sexual pleasure. This can be a big issue some gay men (those who are beginners), whether they see themselves as the 'top' or 'bottom', and whether this has an affect on their masculinity. I won’t even speculate on this subject. In my humble opinion, the position should be immaterial. If you’re comfortable with who you are, nothing else matters.
Whichever position you and your partner select, is again, strictly influenced by the pleasure factor. Some prefer top, some prefer bottom, and others like both. Cleanliness also helps to ensure total enjoyment. Enemas and douches can work very well, but I've been warned they can only be used sparingly, as repeatedly flushing out the rectum can disrupt the body’s nature process to expel waste. And, always practice safe sex!
The things that make anal sex pleasurable are: the position, technique, and prostate stimulation–of course, pressure and the shape of the erection. A man's prostate gland is in the perfect location to be stimulated during anal sex, when his partner's penis applies the correct pressure through the wall of the rectum. And, it’s that pressure, which provides the majority of the pleasure. The shape of the erect penis can determine the position. For instance, men who have a cock that curves upward, almost like a hook, may give their partner the greatest pleasure when he rides or missionary. If the cock has the opposite curve, doggie will probably provide the most arousal.
The anus has a fairly high concentration of nerve-endings just as other erogenous zones in the body, which for some includes the perineum. And this is where anal foreplay can prepare the receiver for intercourse. Foreplay can be penetrative or non-penetrative. There is fingering, face sitting, anal fistula, sixty-nine, anilingus, and toys etc. Lube is a must with most penetration, as the rectum doesn’t provide any natural lubrication–though if penetrated deep enough, the bowels may secrete an enzyme.
It’s been suggested, that if you’re a newbie to anal sex, the first thing you should do is become comfortable with your body and experiment alone. You can masturbate and self-stimulate your anus, and once you get used to the anal penetration, your partner can join in. Perhaps you masturbate while he plays with your anus. Lots of lube and have fun! lol
Happy Yaoi Hunting!