Welcome to BRB, sweeties! Do you have your favourite drink ready? I do, a chai tea latte. So, let's get down to business. Forget I’m a woman,
and instead, think of me as your Wild Wednesday Night sex therapist! LOL Everything, I
have ever and will ever post is researched to the best of my abilities and, on
occasion, that will include talking with real people to ask for advice or their
insight. Once in awhile I will add my personal experience, but the odds of me
confessing are zilch. LOL
Content Advisory: this article may contain
graphic material of a sexual nature, adult situations, sexual reference, explicit
sexual description, and depiction of alternative lifestyles. And for those of
you who easily blush, please leave the computer now. LOL
As with any activity and this includes sex, most of
us do require practice. We aren’t born with an instruction manual. Though the
human anatomy is the same for everyone, and basic bodily functions are similar,
doesn’t infer that what you find sexually enjoyable your partner automatically
will. Sex is the one thing that separates us from the animals. Not only can we
have sex for self-gratification, but also to share an emotional bond–express how
we feel.
It will take time, patience and experimentation to
figure out which positions suit you the best. But according to the experts once
you do overcome your fears and inhibitions you should discover that anal
intercourse can be a source of immense sexual pleasure. This can be a big issue
some gay men (those who are beginners), whether they see themselves as the TOP
or BOTTOM, and whether this has an affect on their masculinity. I won’t even
speculate on this subject. In my humble opinion, the position should be
immaterial. If you’re comfortable with who you are, nothing else matters.
Whichever position you and your partner select, is
again, strictly influenced by the pleasure factor. Some prefer top, some prefer
bottom and others like both. Cleanliness also helps to ensure total enjoyment.
Enemas and douches can work very well, but I have been warned you can only use
them sparingly, as repeatedly flushing out the rectum can disrupt the body’s
nature process to expel waste. And
always practice safe sex!
The things that make anal sex pleasurable are: the
position, technique, and prostate stimulation–of course, pressure and the shape of the erection. A man's prostate
gland is in the perfect location to be stimulated during anal sex, when his
partner's penis applies the correct pressure through the wall of the rectum. And
it’s that pressure, which provides the majority of the pleasure. The shape of the
erect penis can determine the position. For instance, men who have a cock that
curves upward, almost like a hook, may give their partner the greatest pleasure
when he rides or missionary. If the cock has the opposite curve, doggie will
probably grant most of the arousal.
The anus has a fairly high concentration of
nerve-endings just as other erogenous zones in the body, which for some
includes the perineum. And this is where anal foreplay can prepare the receiver
for intercourse. Foreplay can be penetrative or non-penetrative. There is
fingering, face sitting, anal fistula, sixty-nine, anilingus, and toys etc.
Lube is a must with most penetration, as the rectum doesn’t provide any natural
lubrication–though if penetrated deep enough, the bowels may secrete an enzyme.
It’s been suggested, that if you’re a newbie to
anal sex, the first thing you should do is become comfortable with your body
and experiment alone. You can masturbate and self-stimulate your anus, and once
you get used to the anal penetration, your partner can join in. Perhaps you
masturbate while he plays with your anus. Lots of lube and have fun! LOL
Happy Yaoi Hunting!
Blak Rayne
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