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Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Fraudulent Desire – Faking the Big O!



I'm sorry to disappoint but the 'The Big O' is not in reference to the Oprah Winfrey Network. Okay, you know you've got way too much money, when you wake up one morning and say 'Hey I'm going to start my own television network station!' Though having that kind of money would be fun! LOL

Today my post is about one subject that most of us prefer not to discuss. I was watching some clips on the computer last night about sexual dysfunction. In one clip, a gynaecologist was interviewed about the problems women face during sexual activity and according to her, a large majority of women don't  reach climax and they actually fake it.

Okay, the room just went quiet... LOL

All right, I'll be the first to admit…I’ve faked arousal. There. I said it. Just like millions of other women out there, I’ve faked what were supposed to be pleasurable moments in my boudoir. Like I’ve stated previous, I’m totally into men and I’ve yet to meet one that wasn’t attractive. I know you’re saying to yourself – lady you’re nuts because I just saw some butt-ugly guy this morning on the train! Okay, not everyone meets the 'stereotypical' criteria of beauty. But whatever, I've never been one to go with the flow. So yes! Yes! Yes! As far as I'm concerned all men have something attractive about them.

If this rings true then why is it we're forced to fake arousal? Or worse yet, fake an orgasm?

Some of the most common reasons are exhaustion, nervousness, inexperience, uncertainty of who’s control, personal baggage and yes, lack of foreplay. Unless you’re totally revolted by your partner. Then I have to ask...why are you with that person in the first place???

For women, it truly is a mind over matter issue and rarely physical (so don’t panic if you don’t experience a rush the first time or every time). Nervousness and fear are usually the biggest culprits. First find the correct surroundings, somewhere you feel comfortable and can enjoy complete privacy (without disruption). Then relax and take a deep breath. I believe that if you and the person you’re with are really into each other and there’s an emotional connection, the physical connection will fall in line. Other things that can help lessen the tension are talking (affirmation of verbal desire), massage and music, plus a generous amount of alcohol! LOL Just teasing.  

For men, believe it or not the same rule applies. If a man’s mind is elsewhere he might as well call it quits for the evening. Men can’t really fake arousal, unfortunately their anatomy won’t allow it. And they can experience a NO orgasm night. 

I'm not an expert, but here’s my words of wisdom. When you’re really into one another, nothing else should come into the equation. Always have respect then the intimate part should come pretty easy.

Next I'm going for a swim in my backyard - yes there's that much rain! It's crazy, here the rest of the country is under a blanket of white and we're pulling out the snorkels and flippers!
I've received the coveted Versatile Blogger Award again - thank you Amy Romine for choosing me!
I've posted it separately to the side >>>>
I'm currently digging up new material - I'm thinking some Japanese smut (yaoi) for the next blog would be appropriate! LOL
I've signed for my next series 'Benevolence'. I'm very excited! 'Master Of Illusion' should be released in the first quarter of this year. I'll keep you updated and of course I'll post excerpts, novel covers etc. as time goes on! That's it for today! Take care everyone!

Happy Yaoi Hunting!! ^_^!!
Blak Rayne





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